5 tips for avoiding the biggest mistakes parents make in the first 2 years.

Making the right choices for your baby's safety and proper

development is the first priority of nearly all parents. However,

there is so much conflicting advice out there, and so many

different philosophies on how to raise your children, it can be

very overwhelming. Many parents find themselves just winging

it as they face the small day-to-day decisions, and that is

where some of the biggest mistakes can be made. Here are a

few common mistakes that parents often make, so you can

watch out for them.

1. Too much T.V.

I used to be a great fan of the "Baby Einstein" videos, and

generally scoffed at the idea that a little T.V. now and then

could be harmful to babies. After all, T.V. today is much

different than it was when I was a kid, the educational aspects

seemed to outweigh the idea that T.V. could be harmful. That

was before the latest study came out showing that babies who

were exposed to T.V. on a regular basis during their first year

displayed a significant developmental delay in many areas.

Most notably, their social development was affected. I have

seen myself the positive effects on a borderline-autistic toddler

who had T.V. removed from his routine. The social skills

flourished and the delays in his gross motor coordination also

dissipated. I highly caution parents against falling into this bad

habit, the effects on your baby are likely to be negative and any

potential positive benefits are generally over estimated or

non-existent.

2. Weening too early.

This is a difficult one, because there are often reasons both

personal and physical why a mother must help her baby ween

early. However, whether your baby is breast fed or bottle fed and

whether she eats breast milk or formula, most of her nutrition is

going to come in fluid form for the greater part of the first 2

years. Even after she is consuming three or more regular meals a

day, a baby's digestive tract is not strong enough to break down

many foods. Even when you puree table foods, they will only yield

a fraction of their potential nutrients to an immature digestive

system. I recommend that parents always feed their baby a bottle

first and then top off with the solid foods, instead of allowing

your little munchkin to fill up on indigestible roughage before

trying to squeeze a little nutritious breast milk or formula in

afterwards.

3. Unsafe teething toys.

A baby will chew on anything. From a pinky to a pencil, everything

is fun for him to munch on. But there are many common things

that a parent might want to think twice about before allowing in

their baby's mouth. The number one things ironically, are fingers,

yours, or other peoples, especially children's. Hands go

everywhere, they touch everything, and they get washed way too

rarely. Make a habit of asking visitors to your home to wash their

hands as they enter, and be sure to always wash your own hands

when you get home. Carrying a bottle of hand sanitizer with you

is another good tool for keeping yourself baby-ready. Another

terrible chew toy is a key ring. Keys are filthy. They have many

crevices where germs can hide, and no one ever washes them.

However, babies love to chew on the cool metal and shake them

to hear the jingling they make. I highly recommend using a

sterling silver multiple-ring teething ring in the place of a key

ring. Watches, necklaces and other jewelry are also terrible choices

for teething toys. Jewelry, even if it is well-made, is rarely made

strong enough to hold up to the drooling, shaking and chewing

abuse that a baby can put it through. Besides the risk of illness

from the types of germs that might be hiding in the crevices of

your jewelry, the main risk is that your jewelry might come apart

and become an immediate choking hazard. Beaded necklaces are

at an especially high risk for this problem.

4. Too little sunshine.

From the moment your little butter cup takes her first stroll

outside you will probably find that you have suddenly become

hyper-aware of the amount of sun exposure she gets. Though

many pediatricians do not recommend sunscreen for infants,

others prescribe the liberal application of sunscreen from the

first month on. Many parents end up covering their babies from

stem to stern with layers of cloth and sunscreen any time they

might encounter a drop of unfiltered sunlight. The problem with

this is that the best source for vitamin D is from sunlight and

vitamin D is a wonderful mood booster and sleep regulator. As

babies become more and more shielded from the sun, reports of

sleep problems continue to rise exponentially. While you do want

to avoid burns at all cost, gentle exposure to indirect sunlight is

wonderful for your little sun bunny. Practice moderation, and use

common sense, but do regularly give your baby a dose of the

sweet warmth of natural light. You'll both sleep better, and feel

better.

5. Not enough rough-housing.

While, like anything, physical play can be taken to the

extreme, regular tossing, swinging and rolling of your baby

after 2 months has enormous benefits. While your baby is

becoming aware of his position in relation to the world he

will also be developing his sense of balance and a rudimentary

grasp of general physics principles. Of course this can also be

called becoming sturdy, but whatever you call it, it is an

important part of physical development. Fathers are generally

very good at engaging in this type of play, but mothers and

other caretakers can do it just as well. I recommend that this

type of play be done over soft surfaces, like carpets and

blankets, and that the delicate nature of your baby's joints be

considered. But as long as you are safe, this type of fun is

healthy and very beneficial to your little gymnast.

One mistake that I don't have an answer for is the tendency of parents

to beat up on themselves for every mistake that they make. Give

yourself a break, and try not to let every little thing that you wish you

had done differently keep you up at night. Parents today are some of

the most well educated and responsible people ever to raise babies in

this world. By all means, educate yourself, and do the best you can, but

always remember that babies are resiliant and as long as you are giving

them love and doing your best, they will probably be okay. If you have

found these tips helpful, please forward them to any new or expecting

parents you know. Questions, comments and suggestions are always

welcome. Happy parenting!